I’m a sociologist. I’m all into trying to raise my boy in a non-stereotypical fashion. I won’t be pushing sports or cars on him. To that end, I insisted that we buy Toren gender neutral onesies. Light green works great. Even light browns are fine for both girls and boys. But, um, yellow… Well, you decide:
So, Toren or Torena?
He’s a cute girl! But every time we put him in an outfit that pushes his gender just a bit over the line to female, I start calling him a girl. Debi, of course, isn’t a fan of me calling our boy a girl. And, frankly, I’m a bit astonished by my own inability to not stereotype. I guess this is a good lesson for me to learn: It’s one thing to criticize those who clearly demarcate their child’s sex, but it’s quite another to have a child and not present the child in a fashion which clearly demarcates his/her biological sex. Society’s power over gender socialization is strong enough that even someone who is aware of it can’t help it.